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Rob Fraser discusses the mindset required to excel in elite sports and business.
"Sometimes you don’t push as hard because there’s no personal mission there. There’s no reason to push. You don’t necessarily take that mindset into everything you do, but it’s really helpful for those larger goals. And it’s similar with business; I think success in any large goal comes down to your ability to endure over the long term. Perseverance. Resilience. People always talk about hacks and quick wins and “How can you shorten the timeline?” And ultimately I think that leads to maybe a quick win here and there, but not longevity. In business and in sport, careers are built on longevity, and that really comes down to a mindset because along that path on anything worth doing, there are just so many ups and downs and sideways and there’s just so much going on.”
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"Sometimes you don’t push as hard because there’s no personal mission there. There’s no reason to push. You don’t necessarily take that mindset into everything you do, but it’s really helpful for those larger goals. And it’s similar with business; I think success in any large goal comes down to your ability to endure over the long term. Perseverance. Resilience. People always talk about hacks and quick wins and “How can you shorten the timeline?” And ultimately I think that leads to maybe a quick win here and there, but not longevity. In business and in sport, careers are built on longevity, and that really comes down to a mindset because along that path on anything worth doing, there are just so many ups and downs and sideways and there’s just so much going on.”
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Here's a tough truth to face:
Sometimes the reason you didn't give your best effort is because you're afraid of what will happen if you give it your all and still fail.
Your self-protection can quickly become self-rejection.
I've been there. I've avoided giving 100% effort to something because I wanted an out in case it didn't work. I wanted to be able to say, "Well, I didn't really try that hard" if I failed.
It's a flimsy self-protection mechanism: To protect your ego, you sacrifice your growth and progress. You self-reject as you self-protect.
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Sometimes the reason you didn't give your best effort is because you're afraid of what will happen if you give it your all and still fail.
Your self-protection can quickly become self-rejection.
I've been there. I've avoided giving 100% effort to something because I wanted an out in case it didn't work. I wanted to be able to say, "Well, I didn't really try that hard" if I failed.
It's a flimsy self-protection mechanism: To protect your ego, you sacrifice your growth and progress. You self-reject as you self-protect.
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Results are forged from invisible efforts.
That hit song? Years of practice, countless unheard tracks.
The championship athlete? Countless hours of unseen training.
The successful entrepreneur? Working on a Friday night, again.
The invisible advantage is choosing to do what other people could do, but don't.
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That hit song? Years of practice, countless unheard tracks.
The championship athlete? Countless hours of unseen training.
The successful entrepreneur? Working on a Friday night, again.
The invisible advantage is choosing to do what other people could do, but don't.
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"Quiet the noise.
Reflect.
Find what you truly want out of life.
Stop starting things that you know you are going to stop anyway.
Stop wasting time.
Make sure all of your time is spent with the proper people and on the path leading you to your ultimate destination."
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Reflect.
Find what you truly want out of life.
Stop starting things that you know you are going to stop anyway.
Stop wasting time.
Make sure all of your time is spent with the proper people and on the path leading you to your ultimate destination."
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There is no more time to waste. Hours and days evaporate like creeks in the desert.
That’s why it’s okay to be cruel to yourself as long as you realise you’re doing it to become better
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That’s why it’s okay to be cruel to yourself as long as you realise you’re doing it to become better
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Harsh Truth: Failure doesn't always lead to growth
There's this common adage that failure is a good thing because it leads to growth. But sometimes failure just leads to pain. Sometimes you fail and it just hurts—you don't grow, you don't find light. It just sucks...
It's ok to admit that the glamorized version of failure isn't always in sync with reality. Sometimes you'll get knocked down and feel unable to get back up. In those instances, know you're not alone. Find a friend to lean on. Be that friend to someone else.
What I've come to learn: The "growth" may not come from the failure itself, but from simply outlasting the darkness that it creates. I did, and I know you can, too.
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There's this common adage that failure is a good thing because it leads to growth. But sometimes failure just leads to pain. Sometimes you fail and it just hurts—you don't grow, you don't find light. It just sucks...
It's ok to admit that the glamorized version of failure isn't always in sync with reality. Sometimes you'll get knocked down and feel unable to get back up. In those instances, know you're not alone. Find a friend to lean on. Be that friend to someone else.
What I've come to learn: The "growth" may not come from the failure itself, but from simply outlasting the darkness that it creates. I did, and I know you can, too.
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Lie: Most people are bad.
Fear generates clicks—the media knows it and they capitalize on it. So if you watch the news, you're hit by a barrage of pain, suffering, and fear.
The message is to avoid your neighbor—to fear thy neighbor.
Always remember: There are a few bad people out there, but most people are fundamentally good. They just want to be able to provide for their family and live well.
Don't fall into the vicious media trap. Love spreads—love thy neighbor.
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Fear generates clicks—the media knows it and they capitalize on it. So if you watch the news, you're hit by a barrage of pain, suffering, and fear.
The message is to avoid your neighbor—to fear thy neighbor.
Always remember: There are a few bad people out there, but most people are fundamentally good. They just want to be able to provide for their family and live well.
Don't fall into the vicious media trap. Love spreads—love thy neighbor.
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Our time together is finite, but we fail to recognize it until it's too late.
Time is cruel. You’ll love it with all of your being, you may even pray for more of it, but the reality is that time doesn’t care about you.
Your relationship with time is the ultimate unrequited love.
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Time is cruel. You’ll love it with all of your being, you may even pray for more of it, but the reality is that time doesn’t care about you.
Your relationship with time is the ultimate unrequited love.
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Most of the people you call your friends are really just acquaintances.
They’re just along for the ride through your life when it’s fun, convenient, or valuable to be there. They show up to the parties and celebrations—when you get the promotion, win the big game, get married, or sell your company.
But life isn't always a celebration.
Those same people disappear when you get fired, lose the game, get divorced, or your company goes bankrupt.
Your real friends are the ones who are there for you in those moments—when you have *nothing* to offer in return. You can usually count them on one hand.
Cherish them.
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They’re just along for the ride through your life when it’s fun, convenient, or valuable to be there. They show up to the parties and celebrations—when you get the promotion, win the big game, get married, or sell your company.
But life isn't always a celebration.
Those same people disappear when you get fired, lose the game, get divorced, or your company goes bankrupt.
Your real friends are the ones who are there for you in those moments—when you have *nothing* to offer in return. You can usually count them on one hand.
Cherish them.
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The idea that you should know what you want to do with your life by the time you are 20 is one of the worst lies we are told.
I spent years stressing out over my lack of a clearly defined path...
But then I realized that most hyper-successful people still have no idea what they want to do. They just ask great questions to identify opportunities and have a bias for action that has allowed them to capitalize on the opportunities they identify.
If you have a bias for action, you'll always be fine.
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I spent years stressing out over my lack of a clearly defined path...
But then I realized that most hyper-successful people still have no idea what they want to do. They just ask great questions to identify opportunities and have a bias for action that has allowed them to capitalize on the opportunities they identify.
If you have a bias for action, you'll always be fine.
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There is plenty of uncontrollable luck that deeply impacts our lives: Where we are born, who we are born to, and the circumstances of our early childhood all have an outsized impact.
Bad people win and good people lose—all the time.
But within that dark context, there are bright spots: The opportunity playing field is leveling. The Internet and access to technology is opening up the world.
The world may never be truly fair, but it will always belong to those who make the most of what they have before them.
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Bad people win and good people lose—all the time.
But within that dark context, there are bright spots: The opportunity playing field is leveling. The Internet and access to technology is opening up the world.
The world may never be truly fair, but it will always belong to those who make the most of what they have before them.
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Lie: You have to wait for luck to strike.
If you want to get lucky, start increasing your luck surface area.
It’s hard to get lucky watching TV at home. It’s easy to get lucky when you’re engaging and learning—physically or digitally.
Put yourself in a position to get lucky.
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If you want to get lucky, start increasing your luck surface area.
It’s hard to get lucky watching TV at home. It’s easy to get lucky when you’re engaging and learning—physically or digitally.
Put yourself in a position to get lucky.
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Harsh Truth: Most people don't really care about you
The Spotlight Effect says that we overestimate the degree to which other people are noticing or observing our appearance or actions.
Basically, we think people care about us WAY MORE than they actually do.
I used to worry about every little thing I did, thinking that people would scrutinize or judge me.
It's quite liberating to realize that, for the most part, everyone is really just going through life worried about themselves.
Be yourself and live life according to your values.
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The Spotlight Effect says that we overestimate the degree to which other people are noticing or observing our appearance or actions.
Basically, we think people care about us WAY MORE than they actually do.
I used to worry about every little thing I did, thinking that people would scrutinize or judge me.
It's quite liberating to realize that, for the most part, everyone is really just going through life worried about themselves.
Be yourself and live life according to your values.
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Complaining never got anyone anywhere worth going.
The world is effectively split across complainers and doers—the former will always talk while the latter will always act.
Complainers are on the sidelines. They sling rocks and hide from the repercussions.
Doers are in the arena. Doers fight—their bias for action creates luck and results.
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The world is effectively split across complainers and doers—the former will always talk while the latter will always act.
Complainers are on the sidelines. They sling rocks and hide from the repercussions.
Doers are in the arena. Doers fight—their bias for action creates luck and results.
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We all need to stop blaming time while giving our focus a free pass.
I used to frequently complain that I didn't have the time to get to important projects. But after performing an honest assessment, I concluded time wasn’t to blame—my focus was.
Hold your focus to the fire—force it to level up.
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I used to frequently complain that I didn't have the time to get to important projects. But after performing an honest assessment, I concluded time wasn’t to blame—my focus was.
Hold your focus to the fire—force it to level up.
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A persistent desire to be right is a trap.
Finding the truth is much more important than being right. The most successful people legitimately enjoy being wrong.
Instead of arguing your position— ask *great* questions. Asking great questions allows you to uncover new learnings and truths that you can then act against to create asymmetric outcomes.
Learn to embrace new information as “software updates" to your brain that improve upon the old.
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Finding the truth is much more important than being right. The most successful people legitimately enjoy being wrong.
Instead of arguing your position— ask *great* questions. Asking great questions allows you to uncover new learnings and truths that you can then act against to create asymmetric outcomes.
Learn to embrace new information as “software updates" to your brain that improve upon the old.
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Hard conversations are...hard.
But avoiding them gets you nowhere. Being direct is the way.
A close mentor once gave me some great advice on how to handle hard conversations:
The other person should know what you're there to talk about within 30 seconds. That’s your only job and you owe it to them to deliver against it. Beating around the bush doesn't soften the blow, it just makes it more shocking.
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But avoiding them gets you nowhere. Being direct is the way.
A close mentor once gave me some great advice on how to handle hard conversations:
The other person should know what you're there to talk about within 30 seconds. That’s your only job and you owe it to them to deliver against it. Beating around the bush doesn't soften the blow, it just makes it more shocking.
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There should be at least one thing in your life you enjoy despite being no good at it. Something that you enjoy learning about.
This is your play time, which will keep you young. Never apologize for it.
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This is your play time, which will keep you young. Never apologize for it.
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Your decisions will become wiser when you consider these three words: “…and then what?” for each choice.
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