Marshall Goldsmith on self-limiting beliefs:

“I think we have a lot of self-limiting beliefs. And the self-limiting beliefs, a lot of these come from inside us. Basically, I can’t do this. I can’t do that. This is just the way I am. One of the most common problems is, this is just the way I am as if we have some “real” fixed identity that lives throughout time. And I have to really work on people to change that. Even smart people say things like this, “I can’t listen. I can’t listen. I’ve never been able to listen.” I’ll look in their ears. “Why not? You got something stuck in there? Why can’t you listen? Do you have an incurable genetic defect that is prohibiting you from listening?” As long as we tell ourselves, “That’s the way I am.” Two things happen, both bad. One, we inhibit the odds of ever getting better. Two, even if we do change our behavior we don’t seem authentic to ourselves. We feel like a phony because if the real me can’t listen and you say, “I’m a good listener. You know what I’m thinking?” Well, that’s not the real me. I’m just pretending to be a good listener because the real me is no good at that.”

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Speed matters: Why working quickly is more important than it seems
by James Somers, July 26, 2015



The obvious benefit to working quickly is that you'll finish more stuff per unit time. But there's more to it than that. If you work quickly, the cost of doing something new will seem lower in your mind. So you'll be inclined to do more.

The converse is true, too. If every time you write a blog post it takes you six months, and you're sitting around your apartment on a Sunday afternoon thinking of stuff to do, you're probably not going to think of starting a blog post, because it'll feel too expensive.

What's worse, because you blog slowly, you're liable to continue blogging slowly—simply because the only way to learn to do something fast is by doing it lots of times.

This is true of any to-do list that gets worked off too slowly. A malaise creeps into it. You keep adding items that you never cross off. If that happens enough, you might one day stop putting stuff onto the list.

Source: https://jsomers.net/blog/speed-matters

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On relationships:

It can't always be 50/50.

Sometimes it will be 90/10, sometimes it will be 10/90. All that matters is that it adds up to 100.

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Diversity of thought makes us stronger, not weaker.

Without diversity, we die off as a species.

We can no longer adapt to changes in the environment. We need each other to survive.

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Where has your mind been focused recently?

Are you primarily thinking about your past, your present, or your future?

How does focusing on a different timeframe change your thoughts?

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“If you’re going around wanting to be liked, wanting to be appreciated, wanting to be recognized and rewarded right now for what you’re doing, you’re probably setting yourself up for a life of disappointment and frustration. If you’re doing the things that are right because they’re right, because that’s how you sleep at night, because that’s what you think you’re put here to do, that’s a much more resilient, sustainable, and I think, impressive way to go about one’s career and one’s life.”


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Demanding and supportive are not mutually exclusive:

“Most people think of demanding and supportive as opposite ends of a spectrum. You can either be tough or you can be nice. But the best leaders don’t choose.
They are both highly demanding and highly supportive. They push you to new heights and they also have your back.”

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Hi, I want to say thank you to everyone contributing to this channel, through boosting the channel or even sharing the link.

Up and up we shall continue to go,

Thanks.

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“Do not underestimate someone who has lost everything and is still here to tell the story.

Do not underestimate someone who has fought dearly for sobriety. Peace. Forgiveness. Self-love. Freedom. Authenticity. Truth.

Do not underestimate the lonely. They have braved wars that only those who understand the absence of human connection can do. Even now. They are holding it all together while coming so wildly undone. And sometimes we may see them unravel ever so softly. Or loudly. Or however their soul unties its cage the best.

Do not underestimate the ones who have suffered the kind of grief that does not seem to end. Who have been broken in places you did not even know existed. The ones who fell into silence because their lungs had no words left to speak.

We will not always be strong.
No.
But we are enduring.”

Ullie Kaye

The lazy lose to the average.

The average lose to the focused.

The focused lose to the obsessed.

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The lesson: Don’t complain about anything.

If it’s within your control, go do something about it. If it’s not, complaining is just a waste of energy.

When you complain, you’re giving too much power to the thing. Take back that power.

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This may be right but I'm no relationship expert though, what do you guys think ?

The difference between average and exceptional results is found in the things you don’t do.

Everyone can say yes to great opportunities, but only someone focused will say no to average opportunities.

You can do anything, but you can’t do everything.

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Every scar has a story. Don’t I know it! Every challenge that you encounter. Every shitty person or stage that you endure along the way WILL be that story that makes you more valuable. More knowledgeable. Stronger. 🥊


No matter what this day brings, believe that you wouldn’t be gifted this challenge unless you could take something from it. Read that again.


Weather the storm. You can get through it. Smash that problem until it quits coming back. 🙋‍♀️
Remember, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. 🏃‍♀️

— Kara Goldin

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