“If you’d like to get better at saying no, try this:

Keep a list of things you say no to. Whenever you ignore a distraction or turn down an opportunity, add it to the list. As the list grows, you begin to feel a sense of accomplishment for your ability to say no and remain focused on what matters.”

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“Boredom is a filter. Common ideas come before it. Uncommon ideas come after it. Sit with a project long enough to get bored with it, then sit a little more. The most useful insights bubble up after you get bored.”

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In many cases, what you hope to learn by reading books or listening to podcasts can only be learned by attempting what you fear. Some knowledge is only revealed through action.”

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Mastery requires lots of practice. But the more you practice something, the more boring and routine it becomes.

Thus, an essential component of mastery is the ability to maintain your enthusiasm. The master continues to find the fundamentals interesting.

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The unreal is more powerful than the real. Because nothing is as perfect as you can imagine it. Because its only intangible ideas, concepts, beliefs, fantasies that last. Stone crumbles. Wood rots. People, well, they die. But things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, they can go on and on. If you can change the way people think. The way they see themselves. The way they see the world. You can change the way people live their lives. That's the only lasting thing you can create.

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Investor and mathematician Jim Simons on beauty:

“Be guided by beauty. I really mean that. I think pretty much everything I’ve done has had an aesthetic component—at least to me. Now, you might think, “Building a company that’s trading bonds? What’s so aesthetic about that?” What’s aesthetic about it is doing it right. Getting the right kind of people, and approaching the problem, and doing it right. And if you feel that you’re the first one to do it right, that’s a terrific feeling. It’s a beautiful thing to do something right.”

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Going to bed on time is a high-leverage habit that can prevent numerous life problems and lead to better overall health and well-being.

🛏️ Sleep Quality: Going to bed on time improves sleep quality and overall health.
🍷 Avoid Alcohol Issues: Reduces the risk of DUIs and related consequences.

💼 Career Advancement: Enhances work performance and career opportunities.

🏃‍♂️ Safety: Decreases the likelihood of dangerous situations, like muggings.

🌟 Youthful Appearance: Consistent sleep can contribute to a more youthful look over time.

⏰ Set Bedtime Alarms: An effective strategy is to set alarms for bedtime instead of wake time.

Key Insights

🌙 High-Leverage Behaviors: Simple habits like sleeping on time yield multiple positive life outcomes, emphasizing the power of focused behavioral change.

🚫 Consequences of Poor Sleep: Lack of sleep can lead to poor decision-making, health issues, and missed opportunities, showcasing the importance of prioritizing rest.

👨‍👩‍👧 Life Skills Development: Establishing routines in your 20s can set the foundation for future responsibilities, such as parenting or professional commitments.

🏋️‍♀️ Physical Health: Good sleep supports physical health, including muscle maintenance, which is crucial as we age.

🍽️ Nutrition Simplification: Focusing on a few balanced meals can simplify nutrition, paralleling the effect of sleep on overall life satisfaction.

🐕 Responsibility vs. Joy: While owning a dog can increase activity and happiness, it also comes with significant responsibilities that may outweigh the benefits for some.

📈 Long-Term Benefits: Cultivating effective habits early in life can lead to compounding benefits over time, making it essential to choose wisely.

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A head full of ideas isn't healthy - do something about it

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57 years apart, a boy and a man talk about life.

One day you'll miss what you had, so you might as well enjoy it.

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You would give up your dreams in order to escape your nightmares and I would not. I think it’s a bad bargain.

— Cormac McCarthy, 2022

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Motivation comes and goes. It’s like a wave, sometimes high, sometimes low.

But discipline is steady. It doesn’t waver, no matter the day.

Motivation is the spark. Discipline is the fuel that keeps the fire burning.

When motivation fades, discipline takes over.

Stay disciplined, and you’ll achieve greatness.

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Khaled Hosseini wrote The Kite Runner in the early mornings before working as a full-time doctor. Paul Levesque often works out at midnight. If it’s truly important, schedule it. As Paul might ask you, “Is that a dream or a goal?” If it isn’t on the calendar, it isn’t real.

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The “bike-shed” effect, originally described by C. Northcote Parkinson.

To illustrate this phenomenon, let’s compare a conversation about building a nuclear power plant with building a bike shed.

Most people rightly assume that they know nothing about something as complex as a nuclear power plant and so won’t voice an opinion. Most people wrongly assume, however, that they know something about building a bike shed and will argue until the cows come home about every detail down to paint color.

Everyone you meet (every male, at least) will have a strong opinion about how you should train and eat. For the next two to four weeks, cultivate selective ignorance and refuse to have bike-shed discussions with others.

Friends, foes, colleagues, and well-intentioned folks of all stripes will offer distracting and counterproductive additions and alternatives.

Nod, thank them kindly, and step away to do what you’ve planned. Nothing more and nothing different.

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The strategy required to find a great opportunity (lots of saying yes and exploring widely) is different from the strategy required to make the most of a great opportunity (lots of saying no and remaining focused).

James Clear

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