CW: child free and parenthood talk, use of the term "afab" only referred to myself

I've been seeing quite a lot of videos of child free people giving reasons why they are child free lately, and most of them are centred around very real and sad stories of people who made that choice but lived it as a sacrifice or as mourning.

And it pisses me off.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to dismiss any traumatic experiences, I'm sorry for the pain they're feeling and, as an afab person in their mid thirties, I know a number of people who are now going through a very tough journey of loss and acceptance, whatever the reasons may be.

What pisses me off is that this kind of content going viral could pass the message that you're valid in your child free choice only if it's a suffered one, like the only "good" reason to be child free is that you tried your best and cannot have children.

You can be child free just because. You can do whatever you want. You don't need a tragic backstory, you don't need to have, at some point, wanted children to justify you not wanting them now.

Autonomy and body autonomy don't come with conditions and requirements.

You don't need to suffer to earn happiness.
You don't need to reach the bottom of the barrel to make choices about your life.
You don't need to try it all to be valid in your choice.

I finally downloaded Marmalade 🥹 Baron I'm coming for u

Piercings' balls/beads check

Tighten those mfs now before you forget