"Wasting time is worse than death, because wasting time separates you from Allāh and the hereafter. Whereas death separates you from this world and everything in it".
[Imam Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله, al-Fawaid, 458]
[Imam Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله, al-Fawaid, 458]
𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗕𝗘𝗔𝗨𝗧𝗬 𝗢𝗙 𝗦𝗨𝗡𝗡𝗔𝗛
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
When a person is at home then it is from the Sunnah, that for example he makes his own tea, cooks if he knows how to and washes up that which needs washing, all of this is from the Sunnah.
If you do this then you get the reward of following the Sunnah, with imitating the Messenger [ ﷺ] and in humbling yourself for Allaah - the Mighty and Majestic.
This also brings about love between you and your wife. When your family sense that you help them in their chores they will love you and your value to them will increase, therefore, this will end up being a great benefit.
[Sharh Riyadh As-Saliheen, (3/529)]
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
When a person is at home then it is from the Sunnah, that for example he makes his own tea, cooks if he knows how to and washes up that which needs washing, all of this is from the Sunnah.
If you do this then you get the reward of following the Sunnah, with imitating the Messenger [ ﷺ] and in humbling yourself for Allaah - the Mighty and Majestic.
This also brings about love between you and your wife. When your family sense that you help them in their chores they will love you and your value to them will increase, therefore, this will end up being a great benefit.
[Sharh Riyadh As-Saliheen, (3/529)]
Ibrahim al-Nasrabadhi al-Naysaburi رحمه الله said:
Whoever wants to reach a state of contentment (and satisfaction), then let him adhere to what Allah has placed His satisfaction in (doing what pleases Allah).
[al-Istiqamah, 2/72]
Whoever wants to reach a state of contentment (and satisfaction), then let him adhere to what Allah has placed His satisfaction in (doing what pleases Allah).
[al-Istiqamah, 2/72]
"I can fix him"
Shaykh Ahmad ibn Yahya an-Najmee Rahimuallah Ta'Ala.
The man's condition is not perfect and he does not enjoy life (fully) except (by getting married to) a righteous wife.
And a woman is not tranquil and she does not enjoy life (fully), except by (getting married to) a righteous husband.
Ta'sis al-Ahkam (4/172).
Shaykh Ahmad ibn Yahya an-Najmee Rahimuallah Ta'Ala.
The man's condition is not perfect and he does not enjoy life (fully) except (by getting married to) a righteous wife.
And a woman is not tranquil and she does not enjoy life (fully), except by (getting married to) a righteous husband.
Ta'sis al-Ahkam (4/172).
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
إذا أحدكم أعجبته المرأة فوقعت في قلبه فليعمد إلى امرأته فليواقعها فإن ذلك يرد ما في نفسه
“If one of you is fascinated by a woman and she captivates his heart then let him go to his wife and have intercourse with her, for indeed that will repel what (he feels) in his soul.”
[مشكاة المصابيح برقم ٣١٠٥ ، صححه الألباني]
Imām an-Nawawī رحمه الله said in its Sharḥ:
“And the meaning of this Ḥadeeth is that it’s recommended for the one who looks at a woman and his desire is stoked; to go to his wife or his concubine if he has one; and have sexual intercourse with her to get rid of his desire, and to calm himself, and to bring his heart (to rest) of what concerns it.”
[شرح النووي على مسلم ١٤٠٣]
إذا أحدكم أعجبته المرأة فوقعت في قلبه فليعمد إلى امرأته فليواقعها فإن ذلك يرد ما في نفسه
“If one of you is fascinated by a woman and she captivates his heart then let him go to his wife and have intercourse with her, for indeed that will repel what (he feels) in his soul.”
[مشكاة المصابيح برقم ٣١٠٥ ، صححه الألباني]
Imām an-Nawawī رحمه الله said in its Sharḥ:
“And the meaning of this Ḥadeeth is that it’s recommended for the one who looks at a woman and his desire is stoked; to go to his wife or his concubine if he has one; and have sexual intercourse with her to get rid of his desire, and to calm himself, and to bring his heart (to rest) of what concerns it.”
[شرح النووي على مسلم ١٤٠٣]
Etiquette of a Righteous Husband:
Khutbah from Shaykh ‘Abdul Muhsin Al-Qasim, Imaam of Masjid An-Nabawee.
Whoever comes from a kind and compassionate background will have a tender heart and so such men must bear in mind that their wife is the one who gave birth to his children, takes care of his wealth and maintains his secrets. So be kind to your wives and openly express your joy, for smiling livens the heart and wipes away hatred, and praising the wife for her appearance, cooking and adornment wins her heart.Moreover, Islam has allowed husbands to lie to their wives in order to increase the love between them.
Exchanging gifts is the key to winning a heart and is a reflection of one’s love.
Being easy upon one’s wife, abandoning ambiguity and bad communication and arrogance are ways to achieve a lasting happy marital life.
‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, said:
“A man should be like a child with his wife, happy and easy going, but when he sits with men, he should act as they do.”
Be an upright and straightforward man and your wife will thereby also improve and become more righteous, by the will of Allah.
Do not look at that which is unlawful for you to do so, because the evil consequences of this sin will impact upon your house. Watching women on satellite television causes one’s wife to appear ugly and unpleasant, and lowers one’s rank in her sight, which is a reason why hearts become distant and love diminishes, which in turn causes conflicts to emerge.
Deal with your wife as you would like her to deal with you in all areas, because it is natural that she would like you to be with her as you would like her to be with you.
Ibn ‘Abbaas, may Allah be pleased with him, said:
“I like to take care of my appearance for my wife just as I would like her to beautify herself for me.”
Listen to your wife’s criticism with an open mind and heart because the wives of the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would too discuss his opinions without him becoming angry.
Also a husband should not take from his wife’s wealth without her permission,because it belongs to her.
Treat her kindly and be generous with her and do not be stingy; remember that your wife likes to talk to you regarding all her affairs, so be attentive and listen to her; indeed this is a reflection of perfect manners.
Never go home with a gloomy face because your children need to clearly see your love and sympathy; be kind to your children and make them enjoy your presence, guidance and instructions and always listen to them. Whenever the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would see Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, he would say:
“Welcome, O my daughter!”
Then he would seat her to his right or left.
(Muslim)
Being kind to the members of one’s household reflects real manhood, as Al-Baraa’, may Allah be pleased with him, said:
“I entered upon Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, in his house; he saw his daughter ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, lying down with a fever, so Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, kissed her on the cheek and asked: ‘How are you feeling my daughter?’”
(Bukhari)
Helping at home is a sign of ones faithfulness; ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, was asked what the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would do while at home, she replied,
‘He was just like any other human being, he would sew his garment, milk the sheep and serve himself.’
(Ahmad)
Being generous with ones family is the best charity that one can give and time spent with ones friends should not be at the expense of that with ones family, for they are worthier to spend ones time with.
Never remind your wife with mistakes that she may have made, nor hint about her shortcomings.
Conceal your problems from the children because it has a negative affect on them and reduces the respect they have towards their parents.
Khutbah from Shaykh ‘Abdul Muhsin Al-Qasim, Imaam of Masjid An-Nabawee.
Whoever comes from a kind and compassionate background will have a tender heart and so such men must bear in mind that their wife is the one who gave birth to his children, takes care of his wealth and maintains his secrets. So be kind to your wives and openly express your joy, for smiling livens the heart and wipes away hatred, and praising the wife for her appearance, cooking and adornment wins her heart.Moreover, Islam has allowed husbands to lie to their wives in order to increase the love between them.
Exchanging gifts is the key to winning a heart and is a reflection of one’s love.
Being easy upon one’s wife, abandoning ambiguity and bad communication and arrogance are ways to achieve a lasting happy marital life.
‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, said:
“A man should be like a child with his wife, happy and easy going, but when he sits with men, he should act as they do.”
Be an upright and straightforward man and your wife will thereby also improve and become more righteous, by the will of Allah.
Do not look at that which is unlawful for you to do so, because the evil consequences of this sin will impact upon your house. Watching women on satellite television causes one’s wife to appear ugly and unpleasant, and lowers one’s rank in her sight, which is a reason why hearts become distant and love diminishes, which in turn causes conflicts to emerge.
Deal with your wife as you would like her to deal with you in all areas, because it is natural that she would like you to be with her as you would like her to be with you.
Ibn ‘Abbaas, may Allah be pleased with him, said:
“I like to take care of my appearance for my wife just as I would like her to beautify herself for me.”
Listen to your wife’s criticism with an open mind and heart because the wives of the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would too discuss his opinions without him becoming angry.
Also a husband should not take from his wife’s wealth without her permission,because it belongs to her.
Treat her kindly and be generous with her and do not be stingy; remember that your wife likes to talk to you regarding all her affairs, so be attentive and listen to her; indeed this is a reflection of perfect manners.
Never go home with a gloomy face because your children need to clearly see your love and sympathy; be kind to your children and make them enjoy your presence, guidance and instructions and always listen to them. Whenever the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would see Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, he would say:
“Welcome, O my daughter!”
Then he would seat her to his right or left.
(Muslim)
Being kind to the members of one’s household reflects real manhood, as Al-Baraa’, may Allah be pleased with him, said:
“I entered upon Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, in his house; he saw his daughter ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, lying down with a fever, so Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, kissed her on the cheek and asked: ‘How are you feeling my daughter?’”
(Bukhari)
Helping at home is a sign of ones faithfulness; ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, was asked what the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would do while at home, she replied,
‘He was just like any other human being, he would sew his garment, milk the sheep and serve himself.’
(Ahmad)
Being generous with ones family is the best charity that one can give and time spent with ones friends should not be at the expense of that with ones family, for they are worthier to spend ones time with.
Never remind your wife with mistakes that she may have made, nor hint about her shortcomings.
Conceal your problems from the children because it has a negative affect on them and reduces the respect they have towards their parents.
Supplication at the Time of Distress🌸
The Messenger of Allāh said:
Allāhumma raḥmataka arjū, fa-lā takilnī ilā nafsī ṭarfata ‘ayn, wa aṣliḥ lī sha'nī kullah, lā ilāha illā Ant.
O Allāh, Your mercy is what I hope for, so do not entrust me to myself even for the blink of an eye, and rectify for me my condition, all of it. There is none worthy of worship except You.
[Ṣaḥīḥ Abū Dawud 5090]
Book:Collection of Authentic Invocations by Shaykh al-Albani
Translated by Rasheed Barbee
The Messenger of Allāh said:
Allāhumma raḥmataka arjū, fa-lā takilnī ilā nafsī ṭarfata ‘ayn, wa aṣliḥ lī sha'nī kullah, lā ilāha illā Ant.
O Allāh, Your mercy is what I hope for, so do not entrust me to myself even for the blink of an eye, and rectify for me my condition, all of it. There is none worthy of worship except You.
[Ṣaḥīḥ Abū Dawud 5090]
Book:Collection of Authentic Invocations by Shaykh al-Albani
Translated by Rasheed Barbee
al-Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله stated:
The roots of evil are three and its branches are six.
As for the three roots of evil:
1. Jealousy (envy)
2. Greed
3. Love of the life of this world
As for the six branches of evil:
1. The love of always sleeping.
2. The love of always having one's belly full.
3. The love of always resting.
4. The love of leadership.
5. The love of being praised by people.
6. The love of bragging.
[al-'Iqd al-Fareed of Ibn Abdur-Rabbرحمه الله 2/151]
The roots of evil are three and its branches are six.
As for the three roots of evil:
1. Jealousy (envy)
2. Greed
3. Love of the life of this world
As for the six branches of evil:
1. The love of always sleeping.
2. The love of always having one's belly full.
3. The love of always resting.
4. The love of leadership.
5. The love of being praised by people.
6. The love of bragging.
[al-'Iqd al-Fareed of Ibn Abdur-Rabbرحمه الله 2/151]
Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "Indeed Allah, Most High said: 'O son of Adam! Devote yourself to My worship, I will fill your chest with riches and alleviate your poverty. And if you do not do so, then I will fill your hands with problems and not alleviate your poverty".
[Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2466]
[Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2466]
It is feared for a person that if he makes a habit in delaying his acts of worship, then Allah will test him by delaying everything that is good for him.
[Ibn al-‘Uthaymeen رحمه الله, Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 13/54]
[Ibn al-‘Uthaymeen رحمه الله, Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 13/54]
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
“Invoking Allah’s name al-Qayyum has a special effect in answering du'as and ending afflictions.”
الطب النبوي للإمام ابن القيم صحفة ٢٥٧
“Invoking Allah’s name al-Qayyum has a special effect in answering du'as and ending afflictions.”
الطب النبوي للإمام ابن القيم صحفة ٢٥٧
The Prophet ﷺ said:“Even a person who was in Sujood from birth until death, will be regretful on Qīyāmah.”
[صحيح الترغيب ٢/٤٢٤]
[صحيح الترغيب ٢/٤٢٤]
Ḥasan al-Baṣrī رحمه الله said:
“If the slave of Allāh sinned and then he repented, he only gets closer to Allāh.”
[فيض القدير ٣\٢٨٥]
“If the slave of Allāh sinned and then he repented, he only gets closer to Allāh.”
[فيض القدير ٣\٢٨٥]
The Prophet ﷺ said: "When a man goes out of his house to his Masjid, one foot records a good deed and the other erases a bad deed."
● {سنن النسائي ٧٠٥}
● {سنن النسائي ٧٠٥}
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله says,
"The pleasures of worldly life are like the dreams of a sleeper or the fleeting shade.
If it brings some laughter, it also brings many tears. If it gives a day of happiness, it brings a year of despair.
If it offers a brief moment of delight, it also holds one back for a long time. There is no house filled with joy that does not also contain sorrow and tears."
📚 *Fear the Temptations of the Dunya*
"The pleasures of worldly life are like the dreams of a sleeper or the fleeting shade.
If it brings some laughter, it also brings many tears. If it gives a day of happiness, it brings a year of despair.
If it offers a brief moment of delight, it also holds one back for a long time. There is no house filled with joy that does not also contain sorrow and tears."
📚 *Fear the Temptations of the Dunya*
The Prophet ﷺ conquered the city of Makkah and gathered the people who had abused, mocked and tortured him and his companions and asked them: "What do you think I will do to you?"
They answered: "You will only do something favourable; you are a kind and generous brother, and a kind and generous nephew."
The Prophet ﷺ said to them: "Go; you are free to do as you wish."
● {سنن البيهقي ١٨٠٥٥}
They answered: "You will only do something favourable; you are a kind and generous brother, and a kind and generous nephew."
The Prophet ﷺ said to them: "Go; you are free to do as you wish."
● {سنن البيهقي ١٨٠٥٥}
Sayyar reported from Riyah who
said:
“A woman was mentioned to me, so I married her.
Whenever she finished praying 'Isha, she would perfume herself, adorn herself with incense and wear her (fine) clothes;
Then she would approach me and ask: ”Do you have a need?“
If I said yes, she would stay with me.
And if I said no,she would take off her (fine) clothes and stand up for (prayer) until the morning.
Riyah said:
”By Allah, she really delighted me."
[Ibn al-Jawzi al-Hanbali, Sifat as-Safwa 2/255]
said:
“A woman was mentioned to me, so I married her.
Whenever she finished praying 'Isha, she would perfume herself, adorn herself with incense and wear her (fine) clothes;
Then she would approach me and ask: ”Do you have a need?“
If I said yes, she would stay with me.
And if I said no,she would take off her (fine) clothes and stand up for (prayer) until the morning.
Riyah said:
”By Allah, she really delighted me."
[Ibn al-Jawzi al-Hanbali, Sifat as-Safwa 2/255]
A person said: “I looked at a woman who was not lawful for me, so my wife was looked at by whom I did not want (ghayr mahram, a stranger).”
[Ibn al-Jawzi رحمه الله, Sayd al-Khater, 346, 974]
[Ibn al-Jawzi رحمه الله, Sayd al-Khater, 346, 974]