🛡️ How to Fight Temptations 🛡️

Identify the triggers that lead to breaking promises:
You need to be honest with yourself and admit what prompts undesirable behavior. Then it will be easier for you to deal with temptations. In what situations do you always regret what you've done? For example, you know that once you open a bag of chips at home, you won't stop until you've finished the whole pack. Be honest with yourself about it. 💭

Preclude temptations in advance:
Everyone likes to believe they have enough willpower. However, success can guarantee the exclusion of temptations from sight. To put an end to an extreme lifestyle, sometimes you need to resort to radical methods. Start by trying to live without alcohol in the house for a month, or not buying sweets, or undergoing a 30-day digital detox. 🚫

Set long-term goals and tie them to the present moment:
Sometimes it's impossible to eliminate temptation. Then it's worth focusing on long-term goals. Perhaps you don't see anything wrong with living for momentary pleasures, but such a lifestyle can harm you in the future. 🎯

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An Antique Dish

A man walked into an antique shop, glanced lazily at the counter, and was about to leave. Suddenly, he saw it: by the entrance, a cat was drinking milk. From an ancient dish... and the dish – none other than Tutankhamun's! 7th century BCE! 💰

The man returned to the shopkeeper:
– Excuse me, I'm a lonely man, I live without friends. Your cat caught my eye. Could you give her to me?

– No, no. My children love her so much.
– Well, I'm so lonely. I'll give you 10 dollars for her.

– No, no, she's not for sale.

Finally, they settled on 100 dollars. The man was leaving, already at the door he turned back:
– Your cat must be used to drinking from this dish, can I take this dish?
– No, no.
– I'll give you 10 dollars for the dish.

– No...
– How about 20?

– Well, you know, this is Tutankhamun's, 7th century BCE... I've already sold 87 cats like her. 😺

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🌟 Life Events That Change Us Internally 🌟

Getting a pet:
The number of likes under pictures of cats on social media eloquently speaks of our love for our furry friends. It's no news: pets create a cozy atmosphere, help cope with stress and anxiety. In households with cats or dogs, people are less likely to suffer from heart diseases. Many deliberately choose a pet, taking care of them as a family member. 🐾

Getting married:
The stress of planning a wedding is overshadowed by the joy of the prospect of sharing life with a loved one. Besides the obvious benefits, married people gain psychological immunity — they're less prone to depression, less likely to fall into drug addiction, and more satisfied with themselves and their lives than single individuals. However, these benefits are only available to those who are happy in their marriage. 💍

Having children:
With the arrival of children, life becomes brighter and more fulfilling. This is what common sense suggests. But statistics show that it's not all straightforward. A 2015 study demonstrated that prospective parents typically reacted to the news of adding to the family with excitement and pleasant anticipation. However, later on, two-thirds of them experienced a decrease in happiness in the second year of parenting when the initial euphoria faded, and life returned to a stable routine. 👶

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Finding Your Own Path 🛤️

An older man asked the Master to take him as a disciple.

To this, the sage replied:

– You can learn from me, and even live with me, along with other disciples. Just don't become my follower.
– Then whom should I follow?
– No one. When you follow someone, you stray from the true Path.
– What about your other disciples?
– They are only seeking their own Path. But as soon as they find it, they will leave me at once. 😊

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🎭 Illusion of Control: What Actually Depends on Us 🔍

We all tend to overestimate or underestimate our ability to control what happens. In situations where we have little control, we display unexpected confidence. Conversely, we retreat when we could actually influence outcomes. The illusion of control is one of many "positive illusions" documented in psychology. On one hand, it has a positive effect, as it encourages confident action and resilience in the face of difficulties. On the other hand, it leads us to waste energy on futile resistance, with no positive outcome in sight. When we overestimate our abilities, we risk making tragic mistakes for which we will pay dearly later.

Apple co-founder Steve Jobs, upon learning of his diagnosis, decided to control his pancreatic cancer treatment himself. Recommended surgery and chemotherapy were disregarded by Jobs, a supremely confident individual, who opted for acupuncture, herbs, and a special diet. By the time he agreed to surgery, the cancer had spread so extensively that parts of his pancreas, gallbladder, stomach, bile duct, and small intestine had to be removed.

The courage to be honest with ourselves has many benefits. How good of a person am I? To what extent can I control my life? In which situation are efforts more likely to be rewarded? Answering these questions requires self-assurance based on objective reality and facts, achieved through self-analysis and reflection, rather than belief in miracles. Calibrate it, and you'll achieve much better results than you hoped for. 🌟💪

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Advice: To Marry or Not to Marry? 🤔

A young man approached a wise man and said:

— Teacher! I need advice. I like a girl. I really like her. And now I'm tormented because I don't know what to do: to marry or not.

— Don't get married.

— But why?!

— Because you're asking. If you really wanted it, you wouldn't ask. ❤️

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💑 Financial Rules for Every Couple Before Moving in Together 💰

The decision to start living together is a natural progression of romantic relationships. But sometimes lovers' illusions shatter against the realities of daily life and unwillingness to listen to each other. Financial matters pose another challenge for a couple.

You should have shared goals.
As a couple, you should work together towards a common financial goal. This will make you feel like partners. Of course, you don't need to directly ask, "What are your goals?" Dream together about what you would like to see in your life in five years. Find out how your partner envisions their life at the age when children grow up (and, by the way, how many will there be?).

Pay attention to your partner's financial habits and impulsivity.
Sometimes a couple moves in together literally within the first weeks of dating. Excited about this new stage in life, neither of them dares to talk about such mundane matters as finances. Already at the beginning of the relationship, pay attention to how impulsive your partner is and whether they are capable of planning. Assessing this is not always easy, but it's an important point.

Mine - yours - ours.
After deciding to live together, set boundaries: "What's mine, what's yours, and what can be considered ours?" The first impulse, of course, will be to combine all finances. However, experts advise against doing just that. Honesty above all. Don't hide financial expenditures from each other. Secret shopping trips will erode trust within the couple. This doesn't mean you need to account for every penny spent, but it's better if your personal expenses are within an agreed-upon limit, and major purchases are discussed together in advance. 💬💸

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Being Yourself

Once, the great composer Irving Berlin heard the music of the budding composer George Gershwin. It made a very strong impression on him. So strong that Berlin offered Gershwin the position of his musical secretary with a salary three times higher than others.

Gershwin actually agreed.

— But don't take this job, — Berlin said after voicing his offer.
— Why?
— Because if you agree, you'll become a second-rate Berlin. But if you remain yourself, perhaps one fine day you'll become a first-rate Gershwin.

And Gershwin refused to become Irving Berlin's musical secretary.

Over time, George Gershwin became a great American composer. 🎶

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Signs of high intelligence 🧠

High intelligence is both a gift and a curse. Smart people adapt better to circumstances, find it easier to control themselves, possess empathy, and are curious. It's more fun with smart people because the higher the intelligence, the finer the sense of humor. But, as it turns out, they also share some characteristic flaws.

Among them, "night owls" are more common. 🦉
Love staying up late? Another sign of developed intelligence. In one study, it was found that most "night owls" have a high IQ. Among them are, for example, Charles Darwin, Winston Churchill, Keith Richards, and Elvis Presley. They all loved creating at night. If you prefer to stay up late, you're in great company.

Chaos on the desk can indicate high IQ. 🧠
If there's chaos around you, there's good news for you. A University of Minnesota study claims that many geniuses had a messy desk. Don't waste time cleaning up? Perhaps your thoughts are occupied with more important things.
According to research, chaos sets a creative mood.

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