๐ Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: A Practical Guide ๐
Identify if You're Fooling Yourself
Suppose you dislike public speaking. Instead of overcoming the fear and recognizing the benefits of engaging with new people, networking with like-minded individuals, and debating opponents, you start making excuses for your phobias. To determine if you're fooling yourself, ask yourself: "Would I like to do what I refuse to do if the situation were absolutely comfortable and stress-free? Would it be enjoyable or beneficial for my career?" If yes, then you're experiencing fear. Once you realize this, you can move forward. Now, you need to identify one or several reasons why you should do what you fear. The benefit of performing uncomfortable actions is an excellent motivator.
Create a Plan
Having recognized your fears, you can take action, but it's better to show wisdom and patience. You risk not getting the desired result if you don't plan changes carefully. Determine what's most challenging in your situation. Then, realize the steps that will lead to your goal. There are different paths to it. For example, to develop your business, it's worth connecting with the right people. Perhaps you're an introvert, and just the thought of a crowded event makes you feel sick. However, besides participating in exhibitions and conferences, there are other ways to meet and communicate with potential partners. For instance, over the phone or over a cup of coffee in a quiet cafe. Instead of being afraid, take control of the situation and adapt it to your characteristics and preferences.
Change doesn't come easy to anyone. Transformation requires time, effort, and determination. But if you create a plan for change and gather the courage to execute all the steps - you will definitely achieve the long-awaited results.
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Identify if You're Fooling Yourself
Suppose you dislike public speaking. Instead of overcoming the fear and recognizing the benefits of engaging with new people, networking with like-minded individuals, and debating opponents, you start making excuses for your phobias. To determine if you're fooling yourself, ask yourself: "Would I like to do what I refuse to do if the situation were absolutely comfortable and stress-free? Would it be enjoyable or beneficial for my career?" If yes, then you're experiencing fear. Once you realize this, you can move forward. Now, you need to identify one or several reasons why you should do what you fear. The benefit of performing uncomfortable actions is an excellent motivator.
Create a Plan
Having recognized your fears, you can take action, but it's better to show wisdom and patience. You risk not getting the desired result if you don't plan changes carefully. Determine what's most challenging in your situation. Then, realize the steps that will lead to your goal. There are different paths to it. For example, to develop your business, it's worth connecting with the right people. Perhaps you're an introvert, and just the thought of a crowded event makes you feel sick. However, besides participating in exhibitions and conferences, there are other ways to meet and communicate with potential partners. For instance, over the phone or over a cup of coffee in a quiet cafe. Instead of being afraid, take control of the situation and adapt it to your characteristics and preferences.
Change doesn't come easy to anyone. Transformation requires time, effort, and determination. But if you create a plan for change and gather the courage to execute all the steps - you will definitely achieve the long-awaited results.
#Psychology
@Motivation
Choose what interests you!
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๐ What a world
The student asked the Wise One:
"Teacher, is the world hostile? Or does it bring good to humanity?"
"I will tell you a parable about how the world relates to humans," said the teacher.
"Once upon a time, there lived a great king. He ordered to build a magnificent palace. There were many wonders there. Among other oddities in the palace was a hall where all the walls, ceiling, doors, and even the floor were made of mirrors. The mirrors were extraordinarily clear, and the visitor did not immediately realize that they were mirrors - they reflected objects so accurately. Moreover, the walls of this hall were arranged to create an echo. You ask, 'Who are you?' - and you hear in response from different sides: 'Who are you? Who are you? Who are you?'
๐พ One day, a dog ran into this hall and froze in amazement in the middle - a whole pack of dogs surrounded it from all sides, from above and below. The dog bared its teeth just in case, and all the reflections responded the same. Terrified, it began to bark desperately. The echo repeated its bark.
The dog barked louder and louder. The echo kept up. The dog ran back and forth, biting the air, and its reflection also darted around, snapping its teeth.
The next morning, the servants found the unfortunate dog lifeless surrounded by millions of reflections of dead dogs. There was no one in the hall who could harm it. The dog died fighting its own reflections."
"Now you see," the Wise One concluded, "other people do not bring either good or evil by themselves. Everything happening around us is just a reflection of our own thoughts, feelings, desires, and actions. The world is a big mirror."โจ
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The student asked the Wise One:
"Teacher, is the world hostile? Or does it bring good to humanity?"
"I will tell you a parable about how the world relates to humans," said the teacher.
"Once upon a time, there lived a great king. He ordered to build a magnificent palace. There were many wonders there. Among other oddities in the palace was a hall where all the walls, ceiling, doors, and even the floor were made of mirrors. The mirrors were extraordinarily clear, and the visitor did not immediately realize that they were mirrors - they reflected objects so accurately. Moreover, the walls of this hall were arranged to create an echo. You ask, 'Who are you?' - and you hear in response from different sides: 'Who are you? Who are you? Who are you?'
The dog barked louder and louder. The echo kept up. The dog ran back and forth, biting the air, and its reflection also darted around, snapping its teeth.
The next morning, the servants found the unfortunate dog lifeless surrounded by millions of reflections of dead dogs. There was no one in the hall who could harm it. The dog died fighting its own reflections."
"Now you see," the Wise One concluded, "other people do not bring either good or evil by themselves. Everything happening around us is just a reflection of our own thoughts, feelings, desires, and actions. The world is a big mirror."
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In the hustle and bustle of daily life, we forget how important it is to sometimes give ourselves a break and relax. Even if there are only a few minutes for a break, it's worth taking the opportunity to recharge.
-Try a new sport. Yoga, running, tennis, swimming, or even simple exercises you can do at home can help you switch gears.
-Get into plants. Start a mini-garden or have a few flowers in pots, buy a bonsai and take care of it. Communicating with plants has a therapeutic effect.
-Clean something. Not the whole house and not an entire room, but something small: a dusty vase or splashes near the sink. Solving small tasks brings satisfaction.
-Take a walk. Don't reach for your phone, don't get distracted by social media, just look around, and you'll surely see a lot of new and beautiful things.
-Ride a bike. It will not only clear your mind but also allow you to discover pleasant places nearby that you didn't know about.
-Live in the moment. At least for a minute, stop thinking about the past and the future, focus on the present. It's calming.
-Explore emotions. Several times a day, ask yourself: "What am I feeling right now?" Find the precise definition of the emotion.
-Let out anger. Allow yourself to express irritation and anger before they accumulate to a critical point.
-Make a list. Write down what you need to do, who you want to meet, where to go, what books to read, what movies to watch.
-Read a short story. Choose a small piece that tells about different times or takes place in locations you've never been to. It stimulates imagination and boosts creativity.
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Once young Thomas Edison returned home from school and handed his mother a letter from his teacher. His mother read the letter aloud to him, tears in her eyes: "Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him, and there are no teachers here capable of teaching him anything. Please educate him yourself."
Many years after his mother's death (by that time, Edison was already one of the greatest inventors of the century), he was revisiting old family archives and came across this letter. He opened it and read: "Your son is mentally deficient. We cannot continue to educate him in school along with everyone else. Therefore, we recommend that you teach him at home."
Edison wept for several hours. Then he wrote in his diary: "Thomas Alva Edison was a mentally deficient child. Thanks to his heroic mother, he became one of the greatest geniuses of his century."
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Lack of self-belief and belief in our ideas.
Almost all people who have managed to amass a decent fortune have one common trait - they believed not only in themselves but also in their ideas. Often, their families support them. If you believe in yourself, in your ideas, and can easily envision yourself becoming wealthy, then that's already half the battle won.
Fear of failure.
Some people don't take risks simply because they fear failure. They might have ideas that will never come to fruition due to the fear that nothing will work out. Insecurities stemming from childhood often hinder idea realization. There's another problem: such people probably won't seek help from a psychologist or a friend - out of fear that it won't help. Overcoming oneself and taking the first, even small step forward is difficult but necessary.
Laziness.
Don't be lazy. Get educated. Learn. Read biographies of successful people, study their work methods, study markets, finances, economics. Experiment with a small amount of your own money. Try different moves and schemes. And regardless of the results of the first attempts, keep an optimistic attitude.
Attitude towards money.
Many think that money is the root of all evil. It's not true. Money cannot be the source of anything, as it's just money. What they will be for you is determined by you. Money is a resource.
Belief that happiness can't be bought with money.
That's what they say. And it's true. But money can make it so that you have to think about much fewer problems. You won't have to postpone your education or dread the rent going up. You'll be able to dedicate more time to developing your ideas, your family, and yourself.
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Falling ๐
One student asked his mentor:
โ Teacher, what would you say if you found out about my fall?
โ Get up!
โ And the next time?
โ Get up again!
โ And how long can this go on - falling and getting up?
โ Fall and get up as long as you're alive! After all, those who fall and don't get up are dead.๐ช
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One student asked his mentor:
โ Teacher, what would you say if you found out about my fall?
โ Get up!
โ And the next time?
โ Get up again!
โ And how long can this go on - falling and getting up?
โ Fall and get up as long as you're alive! After all, those who fall and don't get up are dead.
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Ways to deal with anxiety. ๐
Repeat the troubling thought until it becomes boring.
Try slowly chanting it for 20 minutes. I call it "boredom therapy": boredom kills anxiety.
Play out the worst-case scenario.
If you try to control anxiety, you exacerbate it. Do the opposite: try exaggerating. Suppose you're afraid that during a presentation, you'll lose your train of thought. Then, during the next presentation, pretend it actually happened and say, "Oops. What was I talking about?"
Learn to recognize false alarms of anxiety.
You're worried that you didn't turn off the iron and your house will burn down, but it will never happen. Is your heart racing? It doesn't mean you'll have a heart attack: it's your body's response to excitement.
Many things we interpret as reasons to panic are background noise. Look at them like a fire truck driving by to a different address. You notice it and then let it pass. ๐ฅ
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Repeat the troubling thought until it becomes boring.
Try slowly chanting it for 20 minutes. I call it "boredom therapy": boredom kills anxiety.
Play out the worst-case scenario.
If you try to control anxiety, you exacerbate it. Do the opposite: try exaggerating. Suppose you're afraid that during a presentation, you'll lose your train of thought. Then, during the next presentation, pretend it actually happened and say, "Oops. What was I talking about?"
Learn to recognize false alarms of anxiety.
You're worried that you didn't turn off the iron and your house will burn down, but it will never happen. Is your heart racing? It doesn't mean you'll have a heart attack: it's your body's response to excitement.
Many things we interpret as reasons to panic are background noise. Look at them like a fire truck driving by to a different address. You notice it and then let it pass. ๐ฅ
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If you love someone for their beauty, then it turns out, if they lose their beauty, you will stop loving them.
If you love them for their money, then if they go broke, you will stop loving them.
There is always someone stronger, more beautiful, slimmer, and richer.
If you love the soul of a person, you will never stop loving them, and even after death, you will be together, because souls do not die. โจ
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Reasons not to postpone life
Always remember: this is prime time.
Why? Turns out, 80% of life-defining events happen before the age of 35. Two-thirds of income growth occurs in the first ten years of one's career.
Try to understand what you like and what you want.
The time from twenty to thirty is a critical period of maturity. During this period, it's easiest to lay the foundation for the life we want to live. Unfortunately, many don't understand this and make the biggest mistake: thinking it's a time for "having fun" and that "thirty is the new twenty." But when they approach thirty, they realize work doesn't bring joy or fulfillment, there are no significant achievements, and it's unclear how ten years of life were spent.
Accumulate identity capital.
A person's life from 20 to 30 is like an airplane flying high in the sky in turbulence, but if you learn to control it (even a little), you can go further and faster. It's important to accumulate "identity capital" โ a combination of personal assets, a reserve of individual resources that we develop over time.
Recognize your true potential.
In our 20s and 30s, we often make the same mistakes: some dream small without realizing that the choices we make during this period determine our entire future life, while others, on the contrary, make grand plans based not on real experience but on fantasies of boundless possibilities.
Remember the power of weak ties.
Each of us has close people: those who help when we're feeling down, give advice, and bring fruit when we're sick. But they can't change our lives. Paradoxically, it's not them but rather the people less familiar to us who can quickly and radically change our lives for the better.๐
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Always remember: this is prime time.
Why? Turns out, 80% of life-defining events happen before the age of 35. Two-thirds of income growth occurs in the first ten years of one's career.
Try to understand what you like and what you want.
The time from twenty to thirty is a critical period of maturity. During this period, it's easiest to lay the foundation for the life we want to live. Unfortunately, many don't understand this and make the biggest mistake: thinking it's a time for "having fun" and that "thirty is the new twenty." But when they approach thirty, they realize work doesn't bring joy or fulfillment, there are no significant achievements, and it's unclear how ten years of life were spent.
Accumulate identity capital.
A person's life from 20 to 30 is like an airplane flying high in the sky in turbulence, but if you learn to control it (even a little), you can go further and faster. It's important to accumulate "identity capital" โ a combination of personal assets, a reserve of individual resources that we develop over time.
Recognize your true potential.
In our 20s and 30s, we often make the same mistakes: some dream small without realizing that the choices we make during this period determine our entire future life, while others, on the contrary, make grand plans based not on real experience but on fantasies of boundless possibilities.
Remember the power of weak ties.
Each of us has close people: those who help when we're feeling down, give advice, and bring fruit when we're sick. But they can't change our lives. Paradoxically, it's not them but rather the people less familiar to us who can quickly and radically change our lives for the better.
#Psychology
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