Social expectations and gender differences may lead your husband to constantly struggle with his emotions: there is what he feels and what he believes is "allowed" to express. He is used to avoiding vulnerability, dependence, and feelings of weakness. This creates challenges in connecting with you—a woman who wants to hear that she is important and appreciated. Often, men like your husband channel their emotions into activities such as work, sports, or hobbies.
For your partner to start opening up, he needs to feel comfortable and safe with you. This will happen when he sees that you yourself freely express your thoughts and emotions—that you are authentic and vulnerable.
Avoid asking him to share his feelings directly. Instead, talk about yourself—your emotions, experiences, and feelings toward him. Speak from your heart without overthinking, analyzing, or attempting to influence or control him. Once he sees you connecting with your emotions and expressing them clearly, simply, and without judgment or expectations, he may one day follow your example.
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For your partner to start opening up, he needs to feel comfortable and safe with you. This will happen when he sees that you yourself freely express your thoughts and emotions—that you are authentic and vulnerable.
Avoid asking him to share his feelings directly. Instead, talk about yourself—your emotions, experiences, and feelings toward him. Speak from your heart without overthinking, analyzing, or attempting to influence or control him. Once he sees you connecting with your emotions and expressing them clearly, simply, and without judgment or expectations, he may one day follow your example.
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Caring for one's appearance and dedicating time to beauty rituals is often tied to body perception and self-esteem. Here are the key aspects that explain why it can be challenging for some women:
Identification with the body
As psychoanalyst Jean-David Nasio points out, when a person perceives their body as an inseparable part of themselves ("I am my body"), caring for it may feel foreign or even unnecessary. The body is expected to "function" without special attention.
Seeing the body as property
When a person views their body as a separate but valuable asset, it becomes easier to care for it. This perspective turns beauty rituals into a way of maintaining an important resource, similar to maintaining a home or car.
Psychological factors
Psychologist Robert Neuburger connects self-care with feelings of significance. If a woman feels unnecessary or uninteresting, her motivation for external care diminishes. However, social and family obligations, as in Marina's example, can prompt her to return to these rituals even during difficult periods.
Emotional state
Experiences such as divorce, loss of loved ones, or stress can temporarily suppress the desire to care for oneself. During such times, energy is spent on survival rather than maintaining appearance.
Influence of surroundings
Social beauty standards and expectations from acquaintances also play a role. Self-care may be a way to save face in society, but without internal motivation, this approach rarely brings satisfaction.
How to address this:
Change body perception. Try seeing your body not as "me" but as a friend that requires attention and care.
Find personal meaning. Self-care should bring joy to you, not conform to others' expectations.
Take small steps. Start simple: a face mask or a walk outdoors can be the first step toward deeper self-care.
Address emotions. Therapy can help work through internal barriers preventing self-care.
Caring for one's appearance is not just a reflection of style; it is a way of expressing self-love and acknowledging one's worth.
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Identification with the body
As psychoanalyst Jean-David Nasio points out, when a person perceives their body as an inseparable part of themselves ("I am my body"), caring for it may feel foreign or even unnecessary. The body is expected to "function" without special attention.
Seeing the body as property
When a person views their body as a separate but valuable asset, it becomes easier to care for it. This perspective turns beauty rituals into a way of maintaining an important resource, similar to maintaining a home or car.
Psychological factors
Psychologist Robert Neuburger connects self-care with feelings of significance. If a woman feels unnecessary or uninteresting, her motivation for external care diminishes. However, social and family obligations, as in Marina's example, can prompt her to return to these rituals even during difficult periods.
Emotional state
Experiences such as divorce, loss of loved ones, or stress can temporarily suppress the desire to care for oneself. During such times, energy is spent on survival rather than maintaining appearance.
Influence of surroundings
Social beauty standards and expectations from acquaintances also play a role. Self-care may be a way to save face in society, but without internal motivation, this approach rarely brings satisfaction.
How to address this:
Change body perception. Try seeing your body not as "me" but as a friend that requires attention and care.
Find personal meaning. Self-care should bring joy to you, not conform to others' expectations.
Take small steps. Start simple: a face mask or a walk outdoors can be the first step toward deeper self-care.
Address emotions. Therapy can help work through internal barriers preventing self-care.
Caring for one's appearance is not just a reflection of style; it is a way of expressing self-love and acknowledging one's worth.
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A wise man punishes not because a wrongdoing has been committed, but to prevent it from being committed again.
— Plato
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"My daughter is unhappy in her marriage, and I don’t know how to help"
The situation described is a complex emotional and familial conflict. The husband, still heavily influenced by his mother, seems unable to separate emotionally and psychologically from her, which creates tension within the new family. His behavior indicates a lack of autonomy, and he may be using his wife as a way to assert control over his mother or draw her attention. The wife, in turn, is caught in a challenging position, feeling neglected and emotionally unsupported.
The only practical solution is for the couple to live separately, away from his mother. However, if the husband is resistant to this idea, it suggests he may not be fully invested in creating a healthy, independent family unit. His motivations for marriage may be rooted in personal or familial dynamics rather than the desire to build a partnership. In this case, it would be helpful to support the daughter in understanding that her emotional well-being is a priority and help her explore her options, whether that means setting boundaries with her husband or reconsidering the relationship altogether.
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The situation described is a complex emotional and familial conflict. The husband, still heavily influenced by his mother, seems unable to separate emotionally and psychologically from her, which creates tension within the new family. His behavior indicates a lack of autonomy, and he may be using his wife as a way to assert control over his mother or draw her attention. The wife, in turn, is caught in a challenging position, feeling neglected and emotionally unsupported.
The only practical solution is for the couple to live separately, away from his mother. However, if the husband is resistant to this idea, it suggests he may not be fully invested in creating a healthy, independent family unit. His motivations for marriage may be rooted in personal or familial dynamics rather than the desire to build a partnership. In this case, it would be helpful to support the daughter in understanding that her emotional well-being is a priority and help her explore her options, whether that means setting boundaries with her husband or reconsidering the relationship altogether.
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This story is a classic example of two contrasting perspectives on the same situation. Two experts are sent to the same market to assess it, but their interpretations differ greatly based on their mindset and objectives.
The first expert sees the absence of shoes as a problem. He views it as a sign of an undeveloped market, thinking that there's no opportunity to sell shoes. For him, it's a hopeless situation.😔
The second expert, on the other hand, sees the same fact as a huge opportunity. He realizes that if everyone is walking barefoot, there's a significant market potential for selling shoes. He views it as a great business chance.😃 👟
This story teaches us the importance of approaching situations with a positive mindset and finding opportunities where others might only see problems.🌟
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The first expert sees the absence of shoes as a problem. He views it as a sign of an undeveloped market, thinking that there's no opportunity to sell shoes. For him, it's a hopeless situation.
The second expert, on the other hand, sees the same fact as a huge opportunity. He realizes that if everyone is walking barefoot, there's a significant market potential for selling shoes. He views it as a great business chance.
This story teaches us the importance of approaching situations with a positive mindset and finding opportunities where others might only see problems.
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"I'm married, but I want to attract other men" 💍
Marina seems to be struggling with a need for external validation and attention, possibly because she feels neglected or unfulfilled in her marriage. She enjoys the admiration and attention from other men, which she doesn’t seem to receive from her husband. This desire for attention may stem from a deeper emotional need for affirmation, affection, and recognition that she might not be getting within her marriage. Her longing for compliments and admiration could also be tied to a lack of personal fulfillment, possibly due to the absence of work or social interaction outside the home, as she is raising a young child and hasn't yet returned to her professional life. 👗
The advice given suggests that Marina may find fulfillment by focusing on her career, gaining social recognition, and building a sense of accomplishment. Redirecting her energy into professional and personal growth could help meet her emotional needs more effectively than seeking validation through interactions with other men.💼 ✨
Additionally, the need for male attention could indicate underlying dissatisfaction in her marriage. She may feel that her relationship with her husband has lost its spark or that they no longer share the same level of intimacy or connection. Her search for attention from others might be a way to compensate for these feelings of disconnection or boredom within the marriage.💔
It is important for Marina to reflect on her relationship with her husband and consider whether her desire for external attention is a sign of deeper issues, such as emotional distance or unmet needs in her marriage.🧠 💭
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Marina seems to be struggling with a need for external validation and attention, possibly because she feels neglected or unfulfilled in her marriage. She enjoys the admiration and attention from other men, which she doesn’t seem to receive from her husband. This desire for attention may stem from a deeper emotional need for affirmation, affection, and recognition that she might not be getting within her marriage. Her longing for compliments and admiration could also be tied to a lack of personal fulfillment, possibly due to the absence of work or social interaction outside the home, as she is raising a young child and hasn't yet returned to her professional life. 👗
The advice given suggests that Marina may find fulfillment by focusing on her career, gaining social recognition, and building a sense of accomplishment. Redirecting her energy into professional and personal growth could help meet her emotional needs more effectively than seeking validation through interactions with other men.
Additionally, the need for male attention could indicate underlying dissatisfaction in her marriage. She may feel that her relationship with her husband has lost its spark or that they no longer share the same level of intimacy or connection. Her search for attention from others might be a way to compensate for these feelings of disconnection or boredom within the marriage.
It is important for Marina to reflect on her relationship with her husband and consider whether her desire for external attention is a sign of deeper issues, such as emotional distance or unmet needs in her marriage.
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How wish lists work
New Year is just around the corner, and with it comes that pre-holiday period when we want to believe in miracles and dream about the future. Have you ever made a wish list? Coach Martha Beck explains the "magic" behind wish lists and how they can help fulfill even the most fantastical dreams.
My acquaintance, Alice, wrote a list of 100 qualities for the perfect man and hid it in a closet. Unbelievably, soon a man appeared in her life who almost completely matched her ideal.
Admit it, you’ve probably made a "magic" wish list too, right? I simply refuse to believe that only Alice and I write down our dreams. When I learned about the changes in her life, I wanted to make lists for all occasions.
I’m a coach, and I find making lists useful. The only problem with them is selective effectiveness. If you meet someone who is 98% like your dream man, the remaining 2% might hide anything. For example, he could be a sociopath or an alcoholic.
Still, I believe in Alice's story because, in my practice, I've seen many "miracles." If you were in my shoes, you’d start believing in any fairy tale.🌟 ✨
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New Year is just around the corner, and with it comes that pre-holiday period when we want to believe in miracles and dream about the future. Have you ever made a wish list? Coach Martha Beck explains the "magic" behind wish lists and how they can help fulfill even the most fantastical dreams.
My acquaintance, Alice, wrote a list of 100 qualities for the perfect man and hid it in a closet. Unbelievably, soon a man appeared in her life who almost completely matched her ideal.
Admit it, you’ve probably made a "magic" wish list too, right? I simply refuse to believe that only Alice and I write down our dreams. When I learned about the changes in her life, I wanted to make lists for all occasions.
I’m a coach, and I find making lists useful. The only problem with them is selective effectiveness. If you meet someone who is 98% like your dream man, the remaining 2% might hide anything. For example, he could be a sociopath or an alcoholic.
Still, I believe in Alice's story because, in my practice, I've seen many "miracles." If you were in my shoes, you’d start believing in any fairy tale.
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"Love should not be measured as the young measure it, by the intensity of passion, but by its faithfulness and stability."
— Marcus Tullius Cicero 💖
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— Marcus Tullius Cicero 💖
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