Adab Meminta Tolong:

✅ direct bagitau mau minta tolong apa + “klu ko nda busy la” (lebih sopan lagi ko tambah; “sorry klu ganggu”
✅ klu org tu suda menolak samada secara halus apalagi kalu terang² suda, jwb la "oh nda apa, tq ☺️” Jangan cuba² untuk runding atau paksa secara kasar mahupun halus, belajar hormat hak & keputusan org lain. Mesti dia ada keutamaan lain yg dia perlu selesaikan. Tdk perlu kecil hati. Cukup sekali org tu kata "tidak".

Jarang sy nampak org yg tdk tau benda mudah ni kecuali budak² kecik masih belum sekolah atau masih sekolah rendah. Jadi bila sy nampak wujudnya org dewasa yg masih tdk tau benda ni mmg sy rasa mcm mau tepuk dahi 🤦🏻‍♀️

Kwn² sy yg rapat & sudah lama kenal pun, klu sy blg "sorry nda dpt tlg 🙏" pun tdk pernah la drg paksa sy atau sakit hati sbb sy tdk dpt tolong. pujuk2 sy “tolong ba tolong ba" pun nda walaupun suda kenal lama 😂 biasa yg nda rapat tu yg begitu, sebab tu la nda kn jd rapat dgn sy sbb sy anti sikit org bgitu 😅

#thoughts #advice
@quietworld🍃

Jarang-jarang aku nasihatkan orang yang menghadapi "toxic workplace" untuk berpindah. Ia cuma nasihat yang sesuai sekiranya segala ikhtiar lain sudah habis diusahakan atau dalam kata lain, "as last resort".

Kenapa?

Satu, tiada jaminan pun tempat baru tu tidak akan ada isu yang sama.

Kedua, kadang level of toxicity yang kita hadapi tu level boleh urus sebenarnya, tetapi kita sahaja yang terlalu takut untuk melawan.

Dan ketiga, sifat suka lari dari masalah akan menyulitkan segala urusan hidup. You will be forever running throughout your whole life.

Melawan tu ada seni. Dan melawan tu bukan bermaksud menengking orang, membuat apa apa "grand gesture" untuk menunjukkan rebellion. Melawan tu adakalanya halus. Dan dalam banyak kes, melawan itu adalah menawarkan situasi win-win.

Make peace with the fact that:

a) Not everything yang pentadbir kau buat, kau akan suka. Near impossible. And unless they give you solid reasons not to, please maintain a good relationship with your admins.

b) Sometimes you can't get along with ALL of your colleagues, and some of them be hating for no reason pun. Let go.

c) People are not mind readers. If you have better ideas for your school, VOICE.IT.OUT. Don't so easily assume "ahh no one's gonna listen to it anyway".

Kadang kau kena buktikan dulu baru orang percaya. Atau kena gerak dulu sorang-sorang, guna duit sendiri dahulu. Some people are only convinced when results start to show. Reality of life.

d) and finally, make peace with the fact that at times, you gotta do things solo. And that you can be okay with that. Memang seronok buat apa-apa ada geng, tapi kalau takde pun, kasi onz je. Without you realizing you may be the spark that kickstart positive change at school.

Instead of running away from toxic culture, be the one changing it. I agree it's not applicable for every single case, but give it a shot first before throwing in the towel.

Source: FB Soffea Rahim

#work #positivity #life #advice
@quietworld🍃

Sometimes taking a moment to be still and just chill is the most productive thing to do instead of always 'running' full speed checking off all the stuffs in your to-do list; because you might missed the most important & precious thing.

#thoughts @quietworld🍃

Everything starts from within & everything you awaken from within are more long lasting.

#thoughts @quietworld🍃

I swore to never give up
To tag along the lines of hope and strength
Unfortunately, every muscle of strength got drawn-out
And left me barely clinging to the strands of life
My weight kept drowning me
Suppressing how it felt
Bc it wrecked my soul
Crashed every fibre of my being
No arm for support
I wish they saw I wasn't okay
They usually said I was reserved
Truth is, no one bothered to listen when I talked
Occupied the spaces with their flamboyant selves
Made conversations about em
Pretended not to see my cracked-hurting smiles
I bet they never cared enough to find out
Belittled and made fun of me
Bc the aura I carried was different
These muscles aren't strong
I break, I hurt and die every single day
But I swore not to give up
I wish I did
Bc no one will ever genuinely come through for me
I've got me so
"I swore, to never give up"

When people pretends to be caring but the truth is they are just nosy, I get really irritated & annoyed real fast 📈📈🙄

as if I don't know, they're just being nosy af 🙄

#thoughts @quietworld🍃

Why do people keep asking me why am I thin when I am always this thin. I'm not even unhealthily thin but I'm in my ideal weight, but why did people act surprised to see that I'm this thin & their expressions seems to imply that there's something wrong with my weight? 🤦🏻‍♀️

I never ask people why are they fat, thin, etc. Why should anyone ask that kind of question? Lol.

When different people keep asking me the same question lmao 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️. Tired of hearing & having to answer such stupid question.

Tidak belajar sains ka? Makan sikit jadi kurus. Makan sederhana; berat ideal. Makan banyak, jadi gemuk.

#randomrants

#reminder #advice
@quietworld🍃

This holiday I just want to do nothing. I'm too tired to socialize, make plans, etc. I may miss my family & want to meet up but I feel tired to even do anything that I like. All I feel like is want to be on my own, unbothered by people, lie down & stare into the abyss.

#thoughts @quietworld🍃

I love being alone but when people keep questioning, it does makes me feel lonely but at the same time I don't want to simply have anyone by my side just for the sake of having company.

Probably because I have been traumatised of betrayal from someone close. Now it is hard for me to trust people. It was indeed difficult for me to trust people & now it has get more difficult. Ahh didn't really realize the toll of all 'those situations' had on me until right now.

#thoughts #randomrants
@quietworld🍃

When people ask me any questions about where I live etc, I always feel like they're busy body 🤣 Asking me what & where I usually go to eat etc during my free time.. Ughh.. When you have lots of colleagues but there are only people who are busy body; concerned but not that much care, and people who do not care at all.

Better not care at all than being nosy 🤦🏻‍♀️
#randomrants
@quietworld🍃

The heaviness in my chest 😫

Maybe 🍃

Bhaisajyaguru (Medicine Buddha) Mantra - Wildmind
https://www.wildmind.org/mantras/figures/bhaishajyaguru-medicine-buddha-mantra

🙈🙉🙊
It's better to just mind my own business & stop being a listener because even though I don't ask people about their business, but when they keep on talking & complaining to me, their negative vibe can get into me. Then, I'm the one who burst out & get ugly 🥴

I wish I remember this sooner.
Nevermind, what's done is done. Keep chin up, stay strong & move forward. They'll shut up eventually.

#thoughts @quietworld🍃

Focusing on my own shit is a bliss ☺️✨

#thoughts @quietworld🍃

Lebih baik makin tua makin bongkok daripada makin tua makin bongkak. 😆

#thoughts @quietworld🍃

Believe in yourself.
Focus on your dream.
Be humble and kind.
Let others be themselves and you be you.

☺️🌻

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@quietworld🍃

Spread mental health awareness.. Spread it spread it.. But do you actually listen when people talk? When people vent out?