Hi fellow Redditors, I want to share a situation and get some honest advice. This is purely about me (28F) and my boyfriend (34M).


When I was 25, I met my boyfriend. I always wanted to settle in Kerala, India. I did my master’s there, worked in a college, and was generally content. But he was from a premium institute, had a great IT job, and always talked about moving abroad. Because we got serious, I eventually accepted that if he moved abroad, I would move abroad with him.

But then, during a conversation, he told me he would never take me abroad and that if I wanted to go, I shouldn’t use him as a chance and should do it on my own. So I did exactly that. I moved abroad on my own. It’s been almost 2 years now.

He is still in India. I’ve been asking him to come. After my studies, I started working at a bank here, and he said he would come. But every time it came to the actual cost (around 40 to 50 lakhs), he would get confused, hesitate, or delay. I kept trying to be supportive, but it’s been emotionally exhausting.

Now we’re at a point where he can only come through either

1. marrying me, or


2. a study permit.



Marriage isn’t an option right now, but I do want to get married within a year. I’m not going to carry him here financially. I’ve already struggled my way up alone.

So I told him to apply for a course abroad. It’s been one and a half months, and he has made zero progress.

I am really torn. Should I keep waiting? Or is it time to break up and move on?

What would you do if you were in my position?

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