You follow dating and relationship advice because you feel that you’re unlovable already.

You try goofy visualization exercises about being more successful because you feel as though you aren’t successful enough already.

There’s a saying in Texas: “The smallest dog barks the loudest.” A confident man doesn’t feel a need to prove that he’s confident. A rich woman doesn’t feel a need to convince anybody that she’s rich. Either you are or you are not. And if you’re dreaming of something all the time, then you’re reinforcing the same unconscious reality over and over: that you are not that.

the problem is that giving too many fucks is bad for your mental health

The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.

everybody there is having a fucking grand old time. Look, eight people got married this week! And some sixteen-year-old on TV got a Ferrari for her birthday. And another kid just made two billion dollars inventing an app that automatically delivers you more toilet paper when you run out.
Meanwhile, you’re stuck at home flossing your cat. And you can’t help but think your life sucks even more than you thought.

“The solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one.”

Don’t hope for a life without problems

There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.

Bro imagine if we all just started ignoring celebrities
Like how hilarious would it be if they posted and got like 13 likes

Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

Much as the pain of touching a hot stove teaches you not to touch it
again, the sadness of being alone teaches you not to do the things that made you feel so alone again. Emotions are simply biological signals designed to nudge you in the direction of beneficial change.

we shouldn’t always trust our own emotions. In fact, I believe we should make a habit of questioning them

Whatever makes us happy today will no longer make us happy tomorrow, because our biology always needs something more.

You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all
be roses and unicorns all the time

I once heard an artist say that when a person has no problems, the mind automatically finds a way to invent some. I think what most people— especially educated, pampered middle-class white people—consider “life problems” are really just side effects of not having anything more important to worry about

Because here’s another sneaky little truth about life. You can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and an embarrassment to others. You just can’t. Because there’s no such thing as a lack of adversity. It doesn’t exist. The old saying goes that no matter where you go, there you are. Well, the same is true for adversity and failure. No matter where you go, there’s a five-hundred-pound load of shit waiting for you. And that’s perfectly fine. The point isn’t to get away from the shit. The point is to find the shit you enjoy dealing with.

The best advice I was ever given might be

"Each day can be a different story"

I am so clever that sometimes I don’t understand a single word of what I am saying.

To not give a fuck is to stare down life’s most terrifying and difficult challenges and still take action.