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Sometimes you swallow Sabr on your hardships, sometimes this sabr is for obeying the commandments of Allah, sometimes it is for controlling your nafs, whereas somewhere you need to be patient when someone hurts you brutally, and again you will be doing sabr when someone leaves you.

This is a life-long process dear. You will never get a leave from Sabr. Daily you have to put in effort,daily you have to wait for relief.

And in between we get mentally, emotionally, physically disturbed. Those suicidal thoughts , irritation, frustration and unsatisfied heart with unorganised mind full of tangle perspectives.

You want shoulder to cry on. You want support to discuss. You want company to enjoy. And you want to get rid of all these daily dealings. Right?

But no one is there!.
But we all know that like always this time too we will get relief from the Qur'an and Sunnah.

Allah says in Surah Zumar:36

أَلَيْسَ اللَّهُ بِكَافٍ عَبْدَهُ ۖ
Is not Allah sufficient for His Servant?

It's such a profound aayat.
Pause and reflect.

Allah is sufficient for all of us for your every single tear,every single unbearable pain, every thing that you're suffering from.

Ask Allāh azzawajal whatever you want to ask.
Anything you want just grab the opportunity of Tahajjud.
I highly recommend you all to please pray Tahajjud and pour out your every single thought in Dua.

May Allah reward all of us for our struggling and grant us a mountain of sabr and istiqamah. Aameen
Ibn al-‘Arabī al-Mālikī (rahimahullāh) said:

A righteous woman (wife) does not come due to your efforts rather she is a provision (gift) that is handed over to the one who fears his Lord.

[Ahkām al-Qur’ān, 1/536]
A sister who is a counsellor wrote something deserving to be written in gold, she said :

Dear Precious Husband/Brother/Son,

As you step out of home you will come across 2 kinds of women.

The 1st Kind :

A woman who has been afflicted with the same ailment as that of the wife of al-Aziz, chief minister of Egypt. So, you would find her having beautified and perfumed herself, as if she were saying to you :

" Hayta Lak " (Come to me, O you !) [Surah Yusuf, verse 23]


The 2nd Kind :

A women who conceals her beauty and adorns proper clothing (hijab). She has not come out of her home except to fulfill her dire needs. It is as if she were saying (as the two women said to Musa (AS) ):

"We cannot water (our flocks) until the shepherds take (their flocks). And our father is a very old man"
[Surah Al-Qasas, Verse 23]


So with the first type behave like how Yusuf (as) behaved. Restrain your gaze and say "Ma'az Allah" (I seek refuge with Allah! / Allah forbid!)

And with the second type of woman, behave like how Musa (AS) behaved, offer your help with utmost respect and move on with your work.

As Allah said about what Musa (AS) did ... "So he watered (their flocks) for them, then turned away towards the shade" [Surah Al-Qasas, Verse 23]

The chastity of Yusuf led him towards becoming the governor of Egypt and the chivalry of Musa became the reason for Allah granting him a righteous wife.

🎓 Translated from a post by Shaykh Dr ‘Aasim bin ‘Abd Allah al Qaryuti
Sh. Muqbil Raḥimahullāh said:

“O Muslims!! If you were to prefer Dunyā over Ākhirah; you would neither be able to grab Dunyā nor would you be able to achieve (success of) Ākhirah.”

● [كتاب غارة الأشرطة ١/٤٥٥]
Shaykh-ul-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله mentioned:

..."And for this reason it was said,

"Stay chaste and your women folk and children will remain chaste and be righteous and dutiful towards your parents, your children will be righteous and dutiful towards you."

For verily for the recompense is in accordance to the deed and as you do with others, others will do with you and from the punishment of a sin, is another sin after it (i.e. that you will perform further acts of sin )."

[Majmoo' al Fatawa vol.15 pag.319]
Shaykh Sulayman Ar-Ruhayli حفظه الله declared:

"The people of the Sunnah and the group assembled on the truth (Al-Jama'ah) have always held the opinion that Tawheed is the greatest of blessings, and that Tawhid, if compared with anything else, will always be more valuable.

Also, they are of the opinion that the disobedient who has his correct Tawheed is better than the obedient person with a corrupt Tawheed.

As for the Khawaarij, since ever, they do not see Tawheed possible with sins, therefore they do not know the value of Tawheed in the presence of sins. We seek refuge with Allah from this deviation."

[Shaykh's Tweet - 10/03/2023]
‘Umar ibn ‘Abdal ’Aziz رحمه الله saw a man writing something from the Qur’an on a wall,so he forbade him and hit him.

In another narration he saw someone writing something from Dhikr of Allāh on the ground, so he said: may Allāh curse the one who wrote this (on the ground).

[as-Sunnah of Khallal 2/2046, al-Ibanah al-Kubra 2231]
“The nakedness of women and their tight clothing does not come as a shock, what's shocking is the fact that they came out (like that) from a home where there are men!!”
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Note: believing women dressing inappropriately is most certainly shocking, let's not downplay that, but the message is clear: FIX UP BROTHERS!! WHERE'S THE GHAYRAH (protective jealousy)?!!

‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar raḍhiyallāhu ‘anhu said: The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: “There are three at whom Allāh ‘Azza wa Jallā will not look on the Day of Resurrection: the one who is disobedient towards his parents, the woman who imitates men, and the dayyooth ( cuckold a man that doesn't have protective jealousy).”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i.
Witnessing my sister becoming a mother of 3 made me realize the depth of this hadith 👇

“Who is MOST deserving of my good treatment?”

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, “Your mother.”

The man asked, “Then who?” The Prophet said “Your mother.”

The man asked again, “Then who?”

The Prophet said, “Your mother.”

The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your father.”

[Sahih Bukhari & Muslim]

This is how Islam have raised the status of mothers. It's sooo hard to be a mother pala. You have to endure all the pains caused by your hormones physically, mentally, and psychologically.

It never stops from giving birth. Being a mother means being a lifetime worrier and a warrior for your children.

Kaya brothers, please respect your wives. Make things easy for them, fill their hearts with love and reassurance and honor them.

They have endured carrying your children and you will never ever understand the struggle they went through and are still enduring and holding their sanity together just to make sure they're strong for you and your children.

Be kind and gentle to your wives and dear children, be kind and loving to your mothers.
Shaykh ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله said,


"A husband might be jealous over his wife that people speak about her and say,

'How beautiful is so and so's wife or How ugly is so and so's wife,

and no one would be pleased with his wife being a topic to be discussed in gatherings; people speaking about her ugliness if she was ugly in their view, or her beauty if she was beautiful in their view.

This is also from the wisdom of a woman covering her face; that a man is safe from him and his family being a discussion in gatherings."

[فتاوى نور على الدرب ١٣٤/١١-١٣٥]
Imam Abu Hanifah’s advice to his student:

“Don’t get married until after knowing that you’ll be able to take care of all its needs.

Seek knowledge first, then gather wealth from that which is halal, and then get married!”

‎● [الطبقات السنية ، ص ١٨٦ - ١٨٧]
Ibn Umar reported:
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

There is no envy but in two cases:
• a man whom Allah has given this Book and he stands to recite it by night and day,
• a man whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it in charity by night and day.

Source: Sahih al-Bukhāri 7529, Sahih Muslim 815
Al-Qurtubi‌ writes:

الْمُسْلِمَ يَجِبُ عَلَيْهِ أَنْ يُحَذِّرَ أَخَاهُ مِمَّا يَخَافُ عَلَيْهِ وَيُرْشِدَهُ إِلَى مَا فِيهِ طَرِيقُ السَّلَامَةِ وَالنَّجَاةِ فَإِنَّ الدِّينَ النَّصِيحَةُ وَالْمُسْلِمُ أَخُو الْمُسْلِمِ

The Muslim must warn his brother of what he fears for himself, and guide him to ways of safety and salvation. Indeed, the religion is sincere advice and the Muslim is the brother of another Muslim.

Tafsi‌r al-Qurt‌ubi‌ 12:68
Sahih al-Bukhari 7416
Narrated Al-Mughira:

Sad bin 'Ubada said, "If I saw a man with my wife, I would strike him (behead him) with the blade of my sword." This news reached Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) who then said, "You people are astonished at Sad's Ghira. By Allah, I have more Ghira than he, and Allah has more Ghira than I, and because of Allah's Ghira, He has made unlawful Shameful deeds and sins (illegal sexual intercourse etc.) done in open and in secret.
And there is none who likes that the people should repent to Him and beg His pardon than Allah, and for this reason He sent the warners and the givers of good news. And there is none who likes to be praised more than Allah does, and for this reason, Allah promised to grant Paradise (to the doers of good)." `Abdul Malik said, "
No person has more Ghira than Allah."
Shaykh Abdur-Rahman As-Sa‘di رحمه الله said:

‎"Complaining to Allāh is not contrary to patience; rather what is contrary to patience is complaining to other people."

📖 ‎[Tafsīr as-Si’dī p.411]
Treat Your Women Well Even If They Have Shortcomings For You Cannot Rectify Them | Ḥadeeth Benefit

قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : المرأة كالضلع إن أقمتها كسرتها وإن استمتعت بها استمتعت وفيها عوج

The Messenger of Allāh Ṣallallāhu-'Alaihi Wa Sallam said:

“A woman is like a (curved) rib, if you (try) to straighten her; you will break her (i.e divorce her) and if you benefit from her; then you will do so while crookedness remains in her (i.e you cannot change her nature so forgive and overlook her mistakes).”

● [أخرجه البخاري في صحيحه ٥١٨٤]

⚠️ Note ⚠️

Shortcoming which is in her character and manners NOT Deen, if the defect is in her committing a sin then she is to be rebuked.
The Reward For Patience Upon Verbal Abuse

قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : وإني اشترطت على ربي عز و جل : أي عبد من المسلمين شتمته أو سببته أن يكون ذلك له زكاة و أجرا

The Messenger of Allāh Ṣallallāhu-'Alaihi Wa Sallam said:

“And I set this as a condition with my Lord, the Mighty and Majestic, that any Muslim worshipper who is REVILED or INSULTED then it becomes CHARITY and REWARD for him.”

● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير ٢٣٤٣ ، صححه الألباني]
Imaam Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله On Abandoning The Needs Of One's Wife

قال شيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية رحمه الله : وحصول الضرر للزوجة بترك الوطء مقتض للفسخ بكل حال، سواء كان بقصد من الزوج أو بغير قصد، ولو مع قدرته وعجزه، كالنفقة وأولى..

Shaykh-ul-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله: “If for the wife there is harm due to abandonment/lack of sexual intercourse then it is an adequate cause for separation (between the husband and wife) in all cases whether the husband does that intentionally or unintentionally whether he is able or unable, it is like maintenance (food, clothes and shelter) and (probably) even more important.”

● [الفتاوى الكبرى ٥\٤٨١-٤٨٢]

Ibn Taymiyyah: “Regarding sexual intercourse, it’s obligatory (upon the husband) once every 4 months or according to her need and ability.”

[مجموع الفتاوى ٣٢\٢٨١]
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,


“If the people knew what is the reward of announcing the call for the prayer and of being in the first row (in the congregation), and then they found no other way to get this privilege except by casting lots, they would certainly cast lots for it”


(Bukhārī).
Sheikh Sulayman Ruhaylee حفظه الله said,

"From the rights of the wife upon the husband is that he should have jealousy for her. She should see from her husband’s jealousy for her, but it is a rational jealousy. It brings good and repels evil.

He is jealous of his wife lest she reveal something of her body. He is jealous of his wife lest she turn her glance towards unrelated men, and mixes with unrelated men and speaks with unrelated men without a necessity."

📚[Rights of the Spouses Pg. 62]
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