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Kerala police book girls’ group for rioting after pro-Palestine event in Kannur

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Why is this under never donate blood category ?
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തിരുവനന്തപുരം ഓണാഘോഷ ഡ്രോൺ ഷോയിൽ നിന്നും 🫠
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Are we becoming as hyper politicised as the North?
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പ്രതിവാരം // Weekly General Discussions Thread - September 07, 2025 - September 13, 2025

Welcome to the weekly general discussions thread. Use this thread for holding discussions that do not deserve a separate thread.

If you have suggestions or feedback, please do post them here or message us.

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'ചോദിക്കുന്ന പണം കൊടുക്കണം, ഇല്ലെങ്കിൽ പോക്സോ അടക്കം ചുമത്തും; വായിൽ ചിക്കൻ കുത്തിയിറക്കി കൊല്ലാൻ ശ്രമിച്ചെന്ന് പറഞ്ഞ് കേസെടുക്കും'; ഒടുവിൽ അഞ്ചുലക്ഷം കൊടുത്തു: പീച്ചിയിൽ എസ്ഐ ആയിരുന്ന പി.എം. രതീഷ് എന്ന കാക്കിയിട്ട ക്രിമിനലിന്റെ ക്രൂരതകൾ വിവരിച്ച് പരാതിക്കാരൻ

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Onam meets Nabidinam.. Wanted to post this here🤍

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പോലീസ്‌കാരൻ തെറിവിളിക്കുന്നത് സാധാരണയാണ് പക്ഷെ പോലീസ് കാരി തെറിവിളിക്കുന്നത് ആദ്യമായിട്ടാണ് കാണുന്നത്

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How to navigate this situation

We have hired a full-time home nurse/nanny for our twin girls in Kochi through a reasonably reputed agency. We pay the agency ₹45,000 per month, and the agency pays the nanny ₹36,000. She stays with us full-time, sleeping on a small bed next to ours in our room. My wife and the girls share the main bed, while the nanny sleeps on a bed beside them to assist with nighttime feeds. I sleep in a separate room and come in when my wife calls me or if I hear any noise. I will be returning to our regular residence soon, while my wife will stay in India until the end of December with her and her parents. The nanny eats the same food we eat as well.

That said, I have started to find some things about the arrangement a bit odd, and I’m wondering if I am overreacting.

As a babysitter, she is quite good—very clean, organized, and proactive though she can’t always pacify the kids. But we want to start our routine and she is super systematic and clean.

Here are some concerns:

Money: She frequently asks about how much we pay for different things, including the agency fee, and whether we'd consider a direct arrangement with her. While I understand wanting extra income, we prefer to keep the agency involved because they handle the KYC and other formalities. I find these repeated questions about money quite uncomfortable.

Gold: We occasionally receive jewelry as gifts for the twin girls from guests who come to visit them. She often stares openly at where we keep the gold and asks about it, which makes the atmosphere awkward. She even says please make them wear this this onam. I find it weird that she knows where things are kept

Personal Questions: She asks personal questions like why we feed formula instead of breast milk, or overhears convos and asks.

Food: She usually eats breakfast before we do and then often hovers around the dining table, watching what we eat, which feels strange and uncomfortable. When guests come, she comes to see what food is served. We always share whatever we have with her, and when we order in (e.g., biryani), she gets the same portion as us—even though my wife and I usually share one. While we don’t skimp on her food, her hovering behavior and seeming desire to overhear conversations at the table makes us uneasy. There is nothing that we have eaten that she hasn't. And her appetite is much more. She eats way more than us. We don't have a problem with that. But don't like us being looked at with suspicion in our own home.

Sofa and House Rules: We have some unspoken house rules like no putting legs on the sofa or center table and no napping on the sofa. Despite reminders, she often breaks these rules. We have never said no feet on the sofa, but we have expressed subtle disapproval.

Peeping into Other Rooms: She sometimes walks around the house looking into other rooms, almost like peeping, which feels very intrusive.

Having lived in a country with a lot of personal space in the last 15 years, we see this relationship as professional and want it to stay that way. Occasional tips are fine, but we don’t appreciate a sense of entitlement around it. We understand she has a difficult family situation and financial obligations, but these behaviors are causing discomfort.

What are your observations or comments? Are we overreacting? My mum said its quite normal. We like her. She is good at what she does. But don't like our personal space being trampled upon.

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Salute to the brave IPS officer Anjali Krishna who hails from Thiruvananthapuram 🫡
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2025/09/14 14:02:09
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